Protestant churches have done exceptionally well among those who are married and even better among those who are married and have children. These groups, as a percentage of the total American population, have been shrinking for decades and likely will continue to do so for the foreseeable future.
The latest data from the Pew Research Center shows that only half of adults (51%) aged 18 and older were married in 2010. Additionally, the median age for first marriage has risen steadily over the last five decades: women from 20.3 to 26.5 and men from 22.8 to 28.7.
So What?
Many churches have a strong pro-marriage (and, within that group most favor a marriage that includes children) culture. This preference is highlighted by specific ministries and programs designated for this group. When those from the “other” (single) half of the population enter these congregations they often feel like outsiders.
On this Valentine’s Day, I encourage you to take a few minutes to reflect on these changing demographics and to assess your congregation from the eyes of newcomers from four demographic groups:
- Single with children
- Single without children
- Married with children (in the home and/or adult)
- Married without children